Divorce is already one of the hardest things a person can go through. But when the relationship was high-conflict, when there was control, manipulation, or harm, the courtroom doesn’t always bring relief. Sometimes it becomes the next arena.
I sat down with Lisa Zeiderman Esq., a Managing Partner & New York matrimonial and family law attorney, to talk about what she actually sees in family and supreme court when it comes to high conflict divorce.
What happens to people who walk in unprepared. Why the person who was wronged doesn’t always come across that way in front of a judge. And what changes outcomes — for women, and for children.
We also talk about what you can do before anything falls apart. Because according to Lisa, by the time most women call an attorney, they are already behind. The preparation that changes everything happens much earlier than most people think.
Listen in.
About Lisa Zeiderman Esq., CFL
Lisa Zeiderman is a Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, based in New York.
She is a matrimonial attorney and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, covering everything from litigation and custody to pre and post-nuptial agreements.
Lisa has been recognized for her excellence in the legal field by a host of organizations including:
- Crain’s New York Business list of Notable Woman Attorneys for 2022, 2023, 2025, and 2026
- Named to Crain’s New York list of Notable Leaders in Accounting, Consulting and Law in 2024
- Crain’s New York list of Notable Diverse Lawyers for 2022
- Named a 2026 Client Champion by Martindale-Hubbell
- Named a 2026 Elite Lawyer in Family Law by Elite Lawyer
- Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2022, 2023 and 2024
- Recognized as a Super Lawyer since 2020.
Lisa also has received multiple awards recognizing her outstanding client service and others that require peer review.
She is a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children.
In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” and co-hosting the Savvy Ladies podcast “The Power of the Ask,” Lisa is regularly published in various media outlets including The New York Law Journal, and the Forbes Business Council.
She is interviewed on issues ranging from financial empowerment to tax issues to prenups to child custody in a host of media ranging from The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal to Kiplingers, Marketwatch, Business Insider and online publications, as well and on podcasts that focus on family law, personal finance, mental health, and the business of law.
Ms. Zeiderman’s approach to matrimonial and family law often includes, where necessary, enlisting an interdisciplinary team, including mental health professionals, financial advisors, career counselors and real estate advisors.
This enables her to create a holistic approach for clients and their families going through a divorce that doesn’t begin and end with negotiating the settlement agreement.
Ms. Zeiderman has particular in-depth experience with cases that involve mental health issues including narcissism and borderline personality, and she regularly works with mental health professionals on these matters.
Lisa, a Fordham University School of Law graduate, serves as Board Chair of Savvy Ladies, Inc., a 501(c)(3) organization that provides free education and resources to help women achieve their financial independence and on the board of Family Legal Care (formerly known as LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today) which provides free legal counsel to families navigating the Family Court system throughout New York State.
Lisa also serves on the Strategic Advisory Board at HelloPrenup, and is a member of the Forbes Business Council.
Ms. Zeiderman, herself divorced and now remarried, is a mother and grandmother.
She formerly owned her own business in the fashion industry and utilizes the negotiation tools she used every day on the streets of Seventh Avenue in her legal practice.
To work with Lisa go to: https://lisazeiderman.com/
Her Email: lz@nullmzw-law.com
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